I ride the NYC subway to and from work every single day. I see plenty of people, and something i find myself doing when i see a man I find attractive (after determining that he’s probably straight) I look for a wedding band. This may seem silly, but I think we all need to start doing it.
I recently went out with a guy who was married but claimed he had an open relationship with his wife. Now I am not stupid, but I decided to give him the benefit of the doubt and believe him; some people do have these open relationships and marriages and i’m not one to judge.
But for me, I like to have my man to myself. So needless to say, this relationship ended pretty quickly. My mother never taught me to share very well as a child, and clearly it has never sunk in since then. I am a monogomous person and I am okay with that! –again not judging of you are into open or multiple party relations, its just not for me personally.
For those of you who see the ring and think ‘oh whatever’ or ‘if he’s unhappy with his wife then that’s my gain’, i do judge you. Just a tad though. A very good friend of mine has made a habit out of sleeping with married men whose wives are completely unaware of their adulterous husbands. I love her, I do not judge her, but I do not agree with this. Part of it is that I wouldn’t want this done to me; I wouldn’t want my guy taking comfort in some other woman’s arms or bed for that matter.
The other aspect that would keep me from ever doing this is that: bitches be crazy. How many of those shows on the Investigation Discovery Channel talk about wives killing their husbands and his hussy for cheating. Sorry for not wanting to be the topic of discussion on an episode of Snapped, but their are cooler ways to die, like in my sleep, or bunjy jumping, thankssssss.
So ladies, let’s collectively stay off the married men. Find some singles mingles party or the guy on the elevator clearly not wearing a ring or having a tan line from a removed one. Dating is hard enough as it is, so why are we trying to make it more difficult for the ones who have already found a match? And please!….give me your thoughts on this.
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PS below is something more of my style : 
Confessions of a Serial Online Dater 